This post is in constant development 🚧
Mar 20 2024
‘Selling pornography is similar to selling drugs - it supports your family but it contaminates people who are in other families
In a moral society we make money in ways that help other people to be healthy and happy
Selling drugs or porn does not make people happy, it gives people pleasure in exchange for their mental health
Think about the psychology of a man who is willing to pay for sex - these these men addicts who are looking to numb their pain with momentary pleasure
You’ll also have to find a man who is ok with you having sold your body online - the mentality required to do that denotes a complete lack of respect for fidelity, therefore your pool of possible partners will include only men who don’t think infidelity is a big deal…
If you lie to your man and say that you never did OF, there will be an layer of lies between his and your heart - and one lie turns into many - this prevents true closeness, which can lead to infidelity
What you’re doing is selfish because you only care about your family - start thinking about the entire world and this prostitution will stop
The problem is that greed will keep you from wanting to understand why porn is bad for men - if you understood, you wouldn’t sell porn
TLDR; you’re just like a drug dealer - start caring about everyone’s familys, not just your own’
Mar 20 2024
I often say that we should be ‘serious’ about the NoFap journey because diligence is an essential virtue on this journey
Of course we should be serious, but sometimes people remain slothful even after hearing that they should take NoFap very seriously
I think this could be because they’re tired of the neutral, hard, cold emotions
Sloth (laziness) leads to failure so in order to get these people to be diligent without making them feel negative I will start embracing the word ‘enthusiasm’
I want NoFappers to be enthusiastic about their journey of quitting masturbation, because enthusiastic people do all their homework
Do you remember that lame kid at school who was super enthusiastic about history? That weirdo did 100% of his homework and also did extra stuff because he was a nerd - BUT he got the results
Literally just because he was enthusiastic!
So let’s get excited about the weeks ahead - you’re finally going to break free from this addiction which plagues so many guys
I know I write a lot, but if you’re serious (enthusiastic!) about actually beating NoFap for real this time don’t skim it, because if you read everything you’ll have a 100% chance of success
All glory goes to God, by the way, not me
Reading everything I write is basically like throwing a masterball at a Pokémon
If NoFap were a Pokémon it would be a very rare legendary Pokémon - extremely valuable
Most guys are throwing regular poke balls at it which obviously fails - and that’s why I failed my history exam
Remember: we’re all charging in the same direction 🛡️⚔️
Yes we have slightly different lives, but very similar brains
Apply the advice and become another man who frees himself from the trap, if not for yourself for your children
Mar 20 2024
Be the man who is fearless when the devil is near
When the devil is in your room and you can feel his presence
It will rejuvenate you to know that you remained composure and relied on yourself during that time, when lesser men would cry like a baby and fall
Make your ancestors proud by resisting the devil’s new favourite trap, and show that you do not need his offerings
You are learning to live without his sweet poison, and this annoys him, but laugh in his face
Mar 20 2024
The devil cannot possess a man who is filled with light because darkness cannot exist in the light
Therefore have no darkness in yourself as you sit alone in your room - instead celebrate that you are moving along the right path - it won’t be easy, but you should be proud of yourself that you’re taking the steps to escape this evil trap
Every second you spend in purity is another second of healing, getting closer towards a life full of natural pleasures
Mar 20 2024
The pull towards relapse can be resisted
Once it has been resisted, make sure to get up and do something productive so that the urge is fully gone
You will then go to sleep with pride and increased tiredness
Mar 22 2024
My pet theory about this is that it’s actually about pheromones…….
I like to believe that when a man is virile and full of sexual energy, he’s naturally emanating some sort of energy… or ‘thing’ that essentially tells the females that he’s sexually mature and able to mate
When a young woman is around a grown man who she can’t feel this from, she is disgusted - in the same way that the thought of an old baby is disgusting
The only way you can fail is if you don’t reach out in time 🤝💯
Let this make you confident
But retain the humility to reach out when you’re doubting your strength
The truth is that there’s an all out assault on the modern man’s masculinity - everyone is looking to exploit lonely men
There are soulless, godless, greedy people out there who don’t care about the welfare of their fellow man - they would would drain us of all our money, time and attention if they could
Although the situation is difficult, we were made to be able to deal with difficulty - that’s what masculinity is
They want to take away our ability to solve our own problems so that we’re dependent on companies
The pornography producer does NOT want you to get a girlfriend - ever!
Masculinity is the solution to all these problems, so
wait a few weeks for your masculinity to restore itself, then (in the program) you will learn how to avoid the traps in society and live very comfortably without using masturbation as an emotional crutch
So just get past these few weeks gentlemen and patiently allow the natural masculinity to grow
Mar 28 2024
Addiction leaves in the same way that a headache leaves: gradually, and without notification
Eventually you’ll get to a point where you look back and realise that you haven’t fapped for agessss because you’ve just been too busy living life
April 7 2024
Well tattoo this advice on your forehead:
The reason that summer is the easiest time to do NoFap (because you’ll usually be busy doing fun things) shows a lot about how NoFap success actually works
Most guys think they have to brute force it - but this is not the way
You’ve got to improve your life so that you don’t need to fap
Don’t let the sims character’s ‘fun’ level drop down into the red for too long
If I sent you on an adventure vacation in America where you did fishing, rock climbing, surfing, paragliding etc. with 35 young men and women your age, you would NEVER fap during that vacation
ZERO INCLINATION TO FAP
This is what you really want - no desire to fap, no reason to fap
This is how we go years without fapping, by changing our lifestyle
The reason you fap is either because you’re bored, lonely, depressed, sexually frustrated, hopeless, etc.
Live life in a way where you hardly ever feel these feelings and you’ll never fap
April 17 2024
VR pornography is coming, and you guys will be glad that you got out before that hits
The people who will be addicted to VR pornography will be 100% enslaved, simple as that
Sep 21 2024
For those among us who are into spirituality:
1. Because I know I’m not the ego, I can observe my thoughts without judgment.
2. Because I know I’m not the ego, I can respond to challenges with calmness and clarity.
3. Because I know I’m not the ego, I embrace vulnerability as a source of strength.
4. Because I know I’m not the ego, I can let go of the need for approval from others.
5. Because I know I’m not the ego, I see my failures as opportunities for growth.
6. Because I know I’m not the ego, I can connect deeply with others without fear of rejection.
7. Because I know I’m not the ego, I can appreciate the beauty in simplicity.
8. Because I know I’m not the ego, I can release attachments to material possessions.
9. Because I know I’m not the ego, I approach life with curiosity rather than defensiveness.
10. Because I know I’m not the ego, I find peace in stillness and reflection.
Sep 23 2024
The reason why fapping shuts off your negative emotional circuitry is because the brain sees sex as something very important as will push everything else away in order to have sex and procreate
This is why we have fapped in when we are depressed / stressed
Sep 23 2024
You fall into addiction because you’re getting something from the addiction that is hard for you to get from the rest of life
Sep 24 2024
‘No man is free who cannot command himself’
- Pythagoras
Sep 24 2024
Device to help with phone addiction: https://freedomvault.co/ (£48 though)
Google ‘lock box for phone’ and you’ll find cheaper alternatives
Sep 25 2024
If you’re bored it actually means that you’re spending free time
A lot of people say ‘I don’t have time’ but are also bored often
If you’re bored it means that you’re in free time but might not be noticing it
Sep 25 2024
Greedy people are taking advantage of our primal drive to reproduce so that they can get richer
It’s truly abhorrent what these people are doing, and they purposefully ignore the harm it does
They are playing the game of survival and they are simply trap-setters 🪤
You know how in video games you can be an archer, a warrior, a mage, a thief? Well these people are sneaky trap-setters - they create traps
Pornography is truly an effective trap
It’s unbelievable how effective this trap is - it’s unbelievable
The only tool we can use to get out of the trap is steadfast self-discipline
Since society promotes laziness more than self-discipline, we have to create our own society in here
This WhatsApp group is an incubator for those who want to free themselves of this habit
Escape the trap 🪤 by controlling yourself, not letting yourself be controlled
Sep 26 2024
Fear is temporary, regret is forever
Sep 27 2024
One day you will be able to say ‘I did it’
After prolonged embodiment of patience, humility, and diligence
Sep 27 2024
Self-discipline is essentially just saying ‘no’ to yourself
Sep 28 2024
Win in your mind and reality will adapt to fit that perception
To succeed with NoFap don’t say “I’ll believe I’m successful when I see it”
This is usually the wrong approach, and prolongs the process
Instead say “I’ll believe I’m successful then I’ll see it”
Winning starts in the mind
Sep 28 2024
Forget what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you
Sep 28 2024
In a physical sense, shadows are simply areas where light is blocked; they cannot exist without light. So while shadows may seem to dominate in certain moments, light always has the power to return. This isn’t about light…
Sep 29 2024
‘A man who struggles to do a good thing is a good man’
When you’re stressed, just know that you could take the easy way out, you could numb it with pleasure
Choose to withstand the stress until you find a healthy solution
Sep 30 2024
Choose your pain:
• The pain of switching to a healthy activity when you don’t want to
• The pain of eternal fapdom
Either way, succeeding at NoFap involves discomfort
But will it be the discomfort of the caterpillar 🐛 turning into a butterfly?🦋
Or the caterpillar 🐛 never becoming a butterfly? 🦋
Sep 30 2024
I don’t really believe in a devil, I just use it as a metaphor for evil: https://www.inspirationparadise.org//forum/nofap-sexual-addiction/the-devil-an-anthropomorphic-metaphor-for-evil
In the last 24 hours the devil launched a coordinated attack on our group
He acted swiftly in the cover of darkness
Although it’s counter-intuitive, feeling super bad after a relapse is the opposite of what we should do
Those who don’t understand this yet ask: “So you’re saying I should feel good about fapping?”
No, I’m saying that it’s counterproductive to have any other emotional reaction than this:
“Ok, woops, I know exactly what I could’ve done to prevent that - let’s move on and apply that knowledge next time”
This is a logical and healthy response that incorporates a non-defeated attitude
It’s equivalent to standing up after falling down
Trust me, guilting yourself and feeling negative will only prolong your relationship with pornography
Instead, we need to get used to relying on other methods of dealing with negative emotions
If you’re tired of the fap-guilt-fap cycle, respond to relapses by strengthening your commitment to do whatever it
Negativity makes things more difficult- NTP journaling is a practical method of shifting from negative to positive thinking: https://www.inspirationparadise.org//forum/nofap-sexual-addiction/ntp-journaling-negative-to-positive-thought-journaling
Sep 30 2024
Forget all my advice, all you need to feel happier is this:
Try to feel depressed while listening to this…
Sep 30 2024
Those who rise from the deepest despair are capable of the deepest prayer
They never take feeling good for granted because they suffered for so long, and they improve the lives of others
This battle your going through can be the reason why you treat everybody so kindly in 10 years time
This battle you’re going through can be the reason why you can’t stay unhappy for more than 1 second
Sep 30 2024
‘Every fulfilled dream happened because of dedication to a process.’ - John C. Maxwell
When you ask a question, you will be directed to the part of the process which you need to master
Remember to choose your pain:
• The pain of switching to a healthy activity when you really don’t want to
• The pain of staying addicted to masturbation, forever
Will you choose to endure the discomfort of a caterpillar turning into a butterfly?
Or the discomfort of a caterpillar never becoming a butterfly?
Sep 30 2024
I salute the man who suddenly realises how toxic pornography is on his life and takes immediate action- may his path be clear and his feet be swift!
Oct 1 2024
Snapping out of an urge is like waking up from a daydream
You’ve just got to snap back to reality
The problem is, the reality you snap back to sucks: you feel like shit
But you have forgotten the many healthy ways to improve your mood
You can all do this very easily- apart from those who believe they can’t- they won’t succeed until they start believing in themselves
Oct 1 2024
There are so many different types of obstacle that could derail your NoFap, that it’s best to just be in a mental state of “I don’t care what the obstacle is, I will let nothing make me go back to fapping”
“I will never choose fapping as a way to release stress, even if I step on a piece of Lego”
“Even if my house burns down, I will not fap”
Get to a mental space where you have zero excuses
Those who give themselves excuses are not taking full responsibility for what they do
They think that the stock market made them fap- this self-deception prolongs enslavement
Oct 1 2024
We are united against a common experience: our lives have been disrupted by watching pornography
Entire years of my young life- ages 16 to 18- were drastically stunted due to improper stress-reduction
As I started learning about NoFap, I became furious about the disgusting greed of the pornography companies, and the deplorable lack of action from our governments
In our hands we hold unlimited cocaine- studies have shown that pornography for porn-addicts is what cocaine is to cocaine addicts (Your Brain On Porn)
I’m holding the thing that I was addicted to and that was ruining my life
What made me able to use my phone snd stay on NoFap was the cast-iron seriousness I had to develop
I wasn’t succeeding when I only half-cared- I’d get a few weeks sometimes, but then I’d go back to binging, because I didn’t really care
If your fapping addiction was represented as a suspicious lump on your arm, you’d do whatever the doctor says to get rid of it
Don’t let anything stop you from going all in this time- the devil wants you to be nonchalant because he lies that nonchalance doesn’t succeed- leave all worries / excuses behind- diligently follow the advice provided to successfully ditch this heinous habit
Oct 1 2024
Until we stop numbing negative emotions with porn, we’ll never truly get over those emotions
If we feel like a loser, numbing that feeling will simply make it pop up in a few days
It’s time to ask ourselves “what’s the real solution?”
Furiously beating one’s meat doesn’t even get close to solving the problem of feeling like a loser- it just numbs the negative emotion
The same as postponing the work for later
Do the emotional processing work you’ve been postponing by following the guide in the description of the Week 1 chat
The real solutions to low self-esteem are:
1. Change the things that make you think badly about yourself- if you’re broke work on finances, if you‘ve got no friends focus on making friends
The problem is that people run into a problem: “I have to do things I haven’t done before to get things I’ve never had… I have to go on a quest”
2. Accept who you are right now and be ok with that
As previously said, we feel discomfort on this journey regardless of what we do, so the ‘I don’t care what the obstacle is, nothing’s gonna get in my way’ attitude is basically the only one that will work
Warriors know there will be bloodshed, so they just go all in
You know there will be discomfort, so just go all in
Oct 2 2024
‘When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.’ - Viktor Frankl
Oct 2 2024
If you believe that your emotional state is caused by other people, and not by your own responses to what they do, then how you feel is at the whim of other people, and your happiness will be matter of chance, not choice
Oct 2 2024
If you’re feeling unmotivated, go for a walk and while listening to these and think about your life:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c56t7upa8Bk&pp=ygUQaGFucyB6aW1tZXIgdGltZQ%3D%3D
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mmK71ZfaZO4&pp=ygUObmljaG9sYXMgYWdhcGU%3D
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2tOutF8B3f8&pp=ygUPYXBoZXggdHdpbiBjeWFs
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xarC5jAiO7w&pp=ygUVb2Rlc3phIGEgbW9tZW50IGFwYXJ0
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WPzHZ5_zlyg&pp=ygUbcG9wcHkgc2VlZCBib2FyZHMgb2YgY2FuYWRh
The best ad-free music player I’ve ever found: https://apps.apple.com/app/id1666462592
Oct 4 2024
That his son would wallow in the muck of pornography is never a father’s wish
But to strongly and courageously and patiently and humbly and quickly get ourselves out of such a trap would make him proud
To escape traps like this is partly what strength, courage, patience, humility, and diligence are for
Men of yore rarely know about, let alone understand, the Fap Trap
It is a trap that shuts in private
It is a trap that shuts slowly
Escape
Oct 4 2024
Oct 5 2024
Paulo, who is 66 days free after many attempts, can be seen here humbly repeating the word ‘patience’ in respectful acknowledgment of it’s unmistakable power
Oct 5 2024
‘A patient man can be described as a man who has a successful relationship with time.’ - David F. Reynolds
Oct 5 2024
Oct 5 2024
‘Innocence is bliss’ - David F. Reynolds
Oct 6 2024
With the sexual essence preserved, there is a sweet joy in being alive
Perhaps this joy is a diluted form of the sweetness experienced in orgasm, evenly spread out such that it is experienced as a pleasant sweetness which makes you act kindly to strangers
Ejaculation is like drinking very strong squash - we call it ‘squash’ in the UK, but you might call it ‘fruit drink concentrate’
Rather than drowning and occasionally gasping for air, please have the trust and patience to float up towards the water’s surface where the air will be all around you, and you will no gasp for it
This is the experience of someone who sublimates their sexual energy- a pleasant feeling permeates the body
Retention of seminal fluid for extended periods, as noted by ancient Chinese wisdom and various other traditions, is believed to provide several health benefits, because as you may have experienced, frequent ejaculation is terrible for the immune system- it’s like destroying a castle’s walls
Perhaps we can call the sexual essence ‘vitality’, and perhaps it is the breath of life breathed into our offspring
Many wise men throughout history have recommended that we conserve this mystical breath, which can also be called ‘spirit’
They say that pornography is free because you pay with your soul
Conserving our vital essence is like saying to the universe: “I’m ready to feel alive again”, “I want to feel alive!”
“I care about my life, I want to live! Breathe life into me because I want to live”
This is a prayer that comes true for the humble, patient, and diligent aspirant
The go-getter (Spiral Dynamics stage Orange) experiences this sweet joy as excitedness for life, and confident exploration of what they can do in the world, drawing from purity and innocent curiousity
The yogi (Spiral Dynamics stage Turquoise) delves deep into it for the purpose of spiritual transcendence, living in total bliss
Spiral Dynamics is a fascinating model of psychological development- insights about which are swiftly being added to the program- I highly recommend learning about it, and there’s lots of insights on my website (https://www.inspirationparadise.org/forum/search/Spiral-) and elsewhere
Consistency builds momentum
To the earnest aspirant, the beginning of an urge is felt as a sense of sadness, a sense of foreboding
It feels like the devil is creeping up on you, and you become sad because you don’t want to let yourself down again
This is the exact moment I want you to remember the Marcus Aurelius quote below, and alert me or the group before switching to a healthy method of stress-reduction like meditation, prayer, journaling, exercise, going for a walk with headphones on 🎧
If you feel you can handle the urge, simply put ‘hey guys small urge, handling it though, thought I’d let you know’ - this will cause me or someone else to check in with you in a few minutes time to see how you’re doing
Especially during the first weeks, try not to be alone with this habit - that is what the devil wants